Divorce attorneys Linda Piff and C. Catherine Jannarone discuss the ten best New Year’s Resolutions you can make for you and your child while going through a divorce.
Our guests today are
Linda Piff, Esq
Linda Piff is a divorce attorney, certified divorce mediator and a pioneer in the field of Collaborative Law. Linda practices collaborative law mediation exclusively. Linda trains other attorneys throughout the country in this unique legal specialty. In addition, Linda is a much sought after expert in the field. She’s been seen and heard on WCBS radio, The Wall Street Journal radio network, local and regional TV, and has been featured in various publications.
She is also president of the New Jersey Council of Collaborative Practice Groups and the co-author of “Inside the Minds: Developing a Collaborative Law Practice” now available at amazon.com.
Address: 1540 Rt 138 Suite 203 Wall, NJ 07719
C. Catherine Jannarone, Esq.
C. Catherine Jannarone, Esq. is a New Jersey attorney with over 30 years experience who has devoted a substantial portion of her practice to family law, including collaborative divorce and mediation as well as litigation. She is also a former judge.
“I strongly believe that divorces settled through the collaborative process lend themselves to faster, more economical and better resolutions, in sharp contrast to the lengthy, costly, and adversarial litigation system. Rejecting the uncertainty of putting the fate of their families and futures in the hands of others, the divorcing couple instead choose to work with the collaborative team to reach the best outcomes for themselves and their children, which they craft themselves.” – C. Catherine Jannarone, Esq.
Address: 30 Freneau Avenue Suite 1 B, Matawan, NJ 07747
IN THIS EPISODE , YOU’LL LEARN:
1.Fulfill your responsibilities to your kids.
-Children’s bill of rights, incorporate ideas of split.
-Right to be loved by both parents, right to be kept out of the middle of parents’ conflict, right not to have to choose one parent over the other, right to know about important changes in the child’s life, right to be a kid.
2.Take time for yourself.
-Pamper yourself during the process.
-Save yourself, just like in an airplane, otherwise you cannot help your children or important others in your life.
-Consider enrolling in classes to further career or enhance personal enjoyment
3.Develop a support network, go to counseling.
-This helps with reality checks.
-Lets you know that you are not alone, and that others have gotten through the same things you are going through
-Gives you a safe place to work through divorce issues
4.Exercise to relieve stress/ meditate.
-Healthy body, healthy mind
5.Work on the financial divorce.
-Gather information for your future; look for new homes/rental;
-develop a spending plan- start to educate yourself so you can make sure your future plan will work for you.
-develop a saving plan for your future
-educate yourself about finances
6.Don’t let bad behavior of others determine your own. Do not return the harm when someone has harmed you. Do not do unto others as they do unto you.
7.Work on the emotional divorce.
-Commit to start healing today.
-Your life is important and only you can determine what the future holds.
8.Prepare for the other divorces that occur with legal divorce.
-Legal divorce is a series of mini-divorces of family, friends, and neighbors
– Maintain good relations with in-laws for the sake of the kids
– They shouldn’t lose grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins because parent got divorced.
-Reach out to new neighbors to form new relationships. Be open to new friendships with singles and other couples.
-You may find, to your distress, that some of your friends are just gone after divorce. Don’t let it devastate you.
-Taking the high road is often hard, but resist the urge to make your divorce the only ongoing topic of discussion, and resist the urge to trash ex-spouse whenever you can. Focus on good things in your life, including peace, love for your kids, and forgive who and what you need to, to move on from your divorce.
-Better for you and makes you better to be around, and helps with formation of new and positive relationships
THEME: Those ex-spouses who forgive/maintain cordial relationship and back each other up as parents have the best lives.
– Think of those couples you know who have divorced, and compare the lives and attitude of those who remain bitter and angry and those who forgive and move on to their new lives.
-Less bitterness, better and easier co-parenting, and those without kids-more able to move on to a new life, whether remarried or not.
9.Think what you want for your future life and what you want it to look like.
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